As you proceed with your divorce in California, you have received word that you are not going to have primary custody of your children. Whether or not this order is temporary or permanent, you may be feeling disappointed that your chances to spend time with your children may never quite be the same as they once were. Fortunately, there are absolutely things you can do to still make a positive impact on the lives of your children even if they do not live with you.

One realization to make right away is that just because you do not have primary custody does not make you less of a parent. It does not diminish your role in the lives of your children or the potential you have to develop and maintain a productive and meaningful relationship with each one of them. Recognizing the influence you can still have on their growth and success can be empowering for you as you navigate this new dynamic. suggests some helpful tips if you have found yourself in the position of a non-custodial parent. One thing that you can do is to dedicate a place where you live, to your children. Have a place where they can be comfortable and feel at home each time they visit. Do everything in your power to strengthen your relationship with each one of your children and be present for extracurricular activities and things they are involved in. Maintain a respectful approach to your communication with your ex and do your best to be flexible with the negotiations that will take place in determining an agreement for child custody.

The information in this article is intended for educational purposes only and should not be taken as legal advice.